
Friday 1 December 1995
(during the week of celebration of the TAI north/ south links between Dublin and Larne, Co Antrim - November 30 to December 5 1995.
Transactional analysis (TA) might help the peace process if it were used as a tool to help people listen to each other and to themselves in a new way.What is transactional analysis?
It is a way of looking at what goes on inside and between people.
It looks at the strokes (marks of recognition) which we give each other - anyone who has ever been ignored knows the truth of Eric Berne's saying that without strokes, we shrivel and die.According to Berne, a Canadian doctor who wrote about analysing the transactions (exchange of strokes) between people, people script themselves to behave in predictable ways, in accordance with the instructions they learned from observing and listening to their parents.
Berne also listed the six ways that people structure their time,:
WithdrawalThese ways of time-structuring balance the risk of rejection against the hunger for intimacy. One of these ways he wrote about in his book Games People Play. Games hook other people into giving negative strokes, but at the last moment, stop short of the longed for intimacy, so that both people are left feeling unhappy to a greater or lesser extent.Rituals
Activity
Pastimes
Games
IntimacyTransactional analysis would maintain:
that People are basically OK (even if their behaviour doesn't always show this);People seeking peace already know that the 'other' is basically OK.
that People can think (even if they do not always choose to do so)
that People make decisions that they can change later (even if they decide not to do so)Transactional analysis would be a means of understanding something of where unacceptable behaviour might come from, and could give insight into why not all peace overtures have the desired effect.
There are two small Transactional Analysis groups meeting in Ireland (1998):TAI North and TAI East.
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TAI North
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TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS is a social and psychological theory, with mutual contracting for growth and change.
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