Love is the whole and more than all.
        - EE Cummings

The heart has its reasons, of which the mind knows nothing.
        - Blaise Pascal

Tis better to have loved and lost — than never to have loved at all.
        - Tennyson, "In Memoriam"

The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved.
        - Victor Hugo

We are, each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another.
        - Luciano de Crescenzo

To live in dialogue with another is to live twice. Joys are doubled by exchange and burdens are cut in half.
        - Wishart

It has been said that the reason we establish relationships is to assure ourselves of a witness to our lives.
        - Roger Ebert

Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and border and salute each other.
        - Rainer Maria Rilke

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.
        - Antoine de Saint-Exupery, Wind, Sand and Stars (1939)

Every human being must be viewed according to what it is good for, for none of us — no, not one — is perfect, and were we to love none who had imperfections, this world would be a desert for our love.
        - Thomas Jefferson

Remember tonight, for it is the beginning of always.
       - Dante

"It is the difference betwixt lust and love that this is fixed, that volatile. Love grows, lust wastes by enjoyment."
        - William Penn

Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?
        ~ Christopher Marlowe

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.
        - Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"

The most important thing in life is to love someone. The second most important thing in life is to have someone love you. The third most important thing is to have the first two happen at the same time.
        - Howie Schneider

Every adult life could be said to be defined by two great love stories: the story of our quest for sexual love and the story of our quest for love from the world.
        - Alain de Botton, "Status Anxiety"

I'll give you an exact definition. When the happiness of another person becomes as essential to yourself as your own, then the state of love exists.
        - Robert A. Heinlein, "Stranger in a Strange Land"

The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.
        - T. Robbins

"We lay there without moving... never knew such silence. The Earth might be uninhabited."
        - Krapp, recalling a youthful romance in Samuel Beckett's "Krapp's Last Tape"

The most important things are the hardest to say, because words diminish them.
        ~ Stephen King

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.
        - Douglas Yates

"Fools rush in, where wise men never go,
But wise men never fall in love, so how are they to know?"
        - Johnny Mercer, "Fools Rush In"

"Faint heart never won fair lady."
        - Old English proverb

"The human heart feels things the eyes cannot see, and knows what the mind cannot understand."
        - Robert Valett

"Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it."
        - Albert Smith

"Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with those who are reckless with yours."
        - Mary Schmich

When so many are lonely as seem to be lonely, it would be inexcusably selfish to be lonely alone.
        - Tennessee Williams

A man without a woman is like a tugboat in a logjam.
        - Anon

"Deliver my heart from this fearful, lonely place. Send me a great love from somewhere or else I shall die, truly I shall die."
        - from Thomas Hardy's "The Return of the Native"

"She took the bus home, reflecting on all the grief and loneliness of her 16 years and on the fact that no one here even said hello to her. She got off the bus, multplying this night by some many others, and so many more to come, and when the next bus came, she stepped in front of it."
        - from "The Twilight Zone: Time and Teresa Golowitz"

"Commitment and loyalty are not stuffy issues of the past, but are enduring qualities that raise us above creatures that procreate without compassion or disgression."
        - from "The Outer Limits: Flower Child"

"Love? Pah. Overrated. Here, look, these are my three wives: Pestilence, Famine and Death. Do you think I married them for their personalities? Their personalities could shatter entire planets! Arranged marriages, every one, but they worked out. They inspired me. Knowing that they are waiting at home for me is what keeps me here — 75 light years away."
        - Londo, "Babylon 5"

"Money can't buy love, but it improves your bargaining position."
        - Christopher Marlowe

"An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have: the older she gets, the more interested he is in her."
        - Agatha Christie

Absence extinguishes small passions and increases great ones, as the wind blows out a candle, and blows in a fire.

- De La Rochefoucauld. "To live on as we have ( forever ) is to leave behind joy, and love, and companionship, because we know it to be transitory, of the moment. We know it will turn to ash. Only those, whose lives are brief can imagine that love .. is eternal. .. You should embrace that remarkable illusion. It may be the greatest gift your race has ever received."
        - Lorien to Ivanova, "Babylon 5"

"I have to decide where my heart belongs before the rest of me can follow."
        - Susan Ivanova, "Babylon 5"

Men always want to be a womans first love - women like to be a mans last romance.

- Oscar Wilde Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come. - Matt Groening "When I fall in love I get butterflies in my stomach — giant, angry butterflies with beaks."
        - Frank, "Good Morning Miami"

I too have known love, that ruler of hearts, that soul of our soul: it's never brought me anything except one kiss and twenty kicks in the rump.

- Voltaire, "Candide" Love is the most subtle form of self-interest.

        - Holbrook Jackson

Love and friendship are profoundly personal, selfish values. One gains a profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence of the person one loves. It is one's own happiness that one seeks, earns and derives from love. Concern for the welfare of those one loves is a rational part of one's selfish interest.

- Ayn Rand, "The Virtue of Selfishness" #


Sex endows the individual with a dumb and powerful instinct, which carries his body and soul continually towards another, makes it one of the dearest employments of his life to select and pursue a companion, and joins to possession the keenest pleasure, to rivalry the fiercest rage, and to solicitude an eternal melancholy. What more could be needed to suffuse the world with the deepest meaning and beauty?

- George Santayana, "The Sense of Beauty", (1896) "The beauty of a woman is not the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides"

        - Audrey Hepburn

"Beauty in life may come from makeup, or what have you, but in death, you have to fall back on character."
        - Martha, in "A Woman's Tale"

"I think your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that."
        - Lauren Bacall

Slinky as a lynx, hot as pepper, cool as rain, dry as smoke. There’s considerably more to her than staying sexy at 60.
        - Ros Asquith, watching Lauren Bacall, "The London Observer"

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun

- Shakespeare, Sonnet #130 Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye - H. Jackson Brown The eye sees what it brings the power to see - Thomas Carlyle "There's a beauty on the inside of you — and it shows on the outside too."
        - Michael W. Smith, "Picture Perfect"

"Uncommon beauty is commonly overlooked. People only notice the birds with the brightest colors."
        - Walter to Robin, people-watcher and bird-watcher, "The Woodsman"

Things are more beautiful when they're obscure.

        - Veda Hille

"All that glisters is not gold; Often have you heard that told."

- William Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice "You're beautiful, a starfall at night."

        - Unknown

"Laddie, every woman has her own charm. You just have to know where to look for it."

- Scotty to Riker "Relics", Star Trek TNG In her own special category, she was quite beautiful. This was the category of all the women, in his entire life, who had ever thought he was worth smiling at. - Terry Pratchett, "Guards! Guards!" On the steps of the Federal Building we ran into Carmencita Ibanez, a classmate of ours and one of the nice things about being a member of a race with two sexes. - Robert A. Heinlein, "Starship Troopers" Italy's nut-brown daughters, their lustrous black eyes and raven tresses, their elegant and voluptuous forms...
        - Royal Navy Mishipman Parsons, on an expedition to Palermo with Admiral Nelson (1799)

Adorable in her not-very-bright submissiveness, charming in her childlike delight in shiny floors, even forgivable in her spiteful competition for the whitest, brightest wash, Madison Avenue's girl-next-door is all the American male could wish for: unless, by some miscarriage, he should fancy human companionship.

- Vivian Gornick and Barbara K. Moran Lovely girls are terribly insecure. They are convinced that their legs are too thick, and their bottoms are too big, and their bosoms are too small. They are conviced that their nose is the wrong shape, that their ears stick out, and that their eyes are too close together. They need a man who will tell them they are exactly right as they are. They do not believe him, but they need to hear it said. - Richard J. Needham Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. - Ayn Rand I wonder if it changes the nature of a society for beauty to be so common. Maybe in Vietnam "She has a wonderful personality" really means something. But I couldnt figure out a polite way to ask. - Pj O'Rourke, "Give War A Chance" A panel at a beautiful annual literary festival in Brazil, held in the almost Utopian coastal town of Parati, found me matched with Fernando Gabeira. This comparison reduced my own limited charisma value to something like zero: Gabeira has excelled at every cultural activity in Brazil.
        - Christopher Hitchens, "Slate Magazine"

"When I see a sexy lady I look. That's the price of beauty."
        - Carlos, "The Woodsman"

"I cried myself to sleep wishing I was ugly because men leered and disrespected me."
        - Evangeline Lilly, "Lost" actress, on the downside of being beautiful

Sorry. I thought I recognized landmarks in your face, felt familiar contours along the bones of your hand, caught a cry that tore in flight across your voice. Forgive me for staring. Someone I knew once lived there.

- Leslie Crutchfield Tompkins He tried to imagine that seeing a young couple parading on the street didn't mean anything, but it affected him. The opposite sex remained a mystery. He could not accept the idea that a woman might love him. He gazed in amazement at empty-faced men locked arm in arm with beautiful women; he felt the rift between these men's sexual nonchalance and his own hyper-sensitivity and vulnerability. All the more he turned to the typewriter and the ephemeral glories of intoxication. "Probably, I could have ended up not liking myself," he says, "but I was lucky. There was nothing wrong with me. It was other people who fell short, who didn't have true humanity." - from Hank: the life of Charles Bukowsky by Neeli Cherkovski I discovered that rejections are not altogether a bad thing. They teach a writer to rely on his own judgment and to say in his heart of hearts, "To hell with you."

        - Saul Bellow

Excuse me, guess I've mistaken you for somebody else, somebody who gave a damn, somebody more like myself.

- Jewel Kilcher I'm not shooting for a successful relationship at this point. I'm just looking for something that will prevent me from throwing myself in front of a bus. I'm keeping my expectations very, very low. Basically, I'm just looking for a mammal. That's my bottom line, and I'm really very flexible on that, too. - Bye Bye Love The beautiful seems right by force of beauty, and the feeble wrong because of weakness. - Elizabeth Barrett Browning Love at first sight is one of the greatest labour-saving devices the world has ever seen. - Anon Beauty is unbearable, drives us to despair, offering us for a minute the glimpse of an eternity that we should like to stretch out over the whole of time. - Albert Camus There is no excellent beauty that hath not some strangeness in the proportion. - Francis Bacon Remember that the most beautiful things in the world are the most useless; peacocks and lilies for instance. - John Ruskin, The Stones of Venice Beauty does what beauty does best - Its beautiful. - An Emotional Fish, "Celebrate" Judging a person by their appearance is the last major human prejudice - Anon After 40, a man is responsible for his face.

    - George Orwell

The best way to be beautiful is to choose your parents well.

- Candice Bergen "Think of all the human suffering caused by the sad truth that beautiful sexy women or handsome Porsche-owning men often prove to have miserable genes for other traits"

        - Jared Diamond, "The Rise and Fall of the Third Chimpanzee"

Of course plastic surgery is needed in the case of deformity or burn scars, but as cosmetic measure?
Do we really live in such a shallow world? How sad that now it would seem people are judged on how they look, rather than how they act. Time was when a person was judged on their achievements and behaviour. On how they treated their fellow human beings, and kindness of the heart was regarded as the ultimate trait of humanity. I wonder what the men of yesteryear would think of the new egotistical self-abosorbed male of the 21st century? This whole new obsession with personal appearance just goes to show how weak we are becoming as a species.
        - Maurice Aherne, reader's "Letter of the Week" to Ireland's "Sunday Independent"

She was what we used to call a suicide blond — dyed by her own hand.
        - Saul Bellow

What, when drunk, one sees in other women, one sees in Gretta Garbo sober.
        - Kenneth Tynan

Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got.
        - Katy French

"I hired you because you look good."
"I was in the top of my class."
"But not the top... would that upset you, really, to think that you were hired because of some genetic gift of beauty not some genetic gift of intelligence?"
"I worked very hard to get where I am."
"But you didn’t have to. People choose the paths that grant them the greatest rewards for the least amount of effort. That’s the law of nature, and you defied it. That’s why I hired you."
        - House and Cameron, "House"


"I will dine nowhere without your consent although with my present feelings I might be trusted with fifty virgins naked in a dark room."
        - letter from Admiral Horatio Nelson to Lady Hamilton (1801)

"My love is founded on esteem, the only foundation that can make the passion last."
        - letter from Horatio Nelson to his fiancee Fanny Nisbet (from "Nelson" by Tom Pocock)

"I wish you had one of those fairy telescopes that can look into the hearts and souls of people a thousand leagues off, then you might see how much you possess my mind."
         - letter from Royal Navy Captain Cuthbert Collingwood to Mary Moutray (1785)

"The heart is long, very long in receiving the convictions that is forced upon it by reason... affection still lingers in the Bosom, even after esteem has taken its flight."
        - Abigail Adams, (platonic) letter to Thomas Jefferson

"Who can know her, and himself, and entertain much hope? Who can see and know such a creature, and not love her to distraction? She has all the softness that does not imply weakness... she is not made to be the admiration of everybody, but the happiness of one."
        - Edmund Burke, letter to a friend after becoming besotted with one Jane Nugent

"You are leaving at noon; I shall see you in three hours. Until then, mio dolce amour, a thousand kisses; but give me none in return, for they set my blood on fire."
        - letter from Napoelon to Josephine (Paris 1795)

"If this lady is pleased to spend her days with Franklin, he would be just as pleased to spend his nights with her."
        - Benjamin Frankling, note to one Mme Helvétius

"I speak to you as I would speak to any person who possesses my true thoughts. For my true thoughts have spent more time in your company than in anyone else's, these last few weeks, and where my thoughts are, there am I, in truth."
        - Henry Ash, in "Possession"

"You are so near to my thoughts and my heart yet so far from my body and my arms... I once loved the whole world because you were in it."
        - Brunnhild, in "Ring of the Nibelungs"

"We both know that love blooms in our embrace. The way that your tongue playfully rolls over the name Charlie. I thank God the silliest of names is mine."
        - Letter from Charlie Chaplin to Marion Davies in "The Cat's Meow"


Give me a look, give me a face, that makes simplicity a grace;
Robes loosely flowing, hair as free,-- Such sweet neglect more taketh me
Than all the adulteries of art: They strike mine eyes, but not my heart.
        - Benjamin Johnson, "Epicaene; Or, the Silent Woman"

She dwelt among the untrodden ways beside the springs of Dove,
A maid whom there were none to praise and very few to love.
A violet by a mossy stone half hidden from the eye;
Fair as a star, when only one is shining in the sky.
        - Wordsworth, "She Dwelt Among The Untrodden Ways"

Many are the starrs I see, but in my eye no starr like thee.
        ~ English saying used on poesy rings

Over the Earth he flies and the loud-echoing salt-sea.
He bewitches and maddens the heart of the victim he swoops upon.
He bewitches the race of the mountain-hunting lions and beasts of the sea,
And all the creatures that Earth feeds,
And the blazing sun sees -
And man too -
Over all you hold kingly power,
Love you are the only ruler over all these.
        - Euripedes, "Hippolytus"

If I were loved, as I desire to be,
What is there in the great sphere of the earth,
And range of evil between death and birth,
That I should fear, — if I were loved by thee?
        - Tennsyon, "If I were loved, as I desire to be"

Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;
        - William Shakespeare, Sonnet #18

My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun ;
Coral is far more red than her lips red :
I grant I never saw a goddess go,
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare as any she belied by false compare.
        - William Shakespeare, Sonnet # 130

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
        - William Shakespeare, Sonnet CXVI

Had we but world enough, and time,
This coyness, Lady, were no crime
We would sit down and think which way
To walk and pass our long love's day.
But at my back I always hear
Time's winged chariot hurrying near;
And yonder all before us lie
Deserts of vast eternity.
Thy beauty shall no more be found,
Nor, in thy marble vault, shall sound
My echoing song: then worms shall try
That long preserved virginity,
And your quaint honour turn to dust,
And into ashes all my lust:
The grave's a fine and private place,
But none, I think, do there embrace.
        - Andrew Marvell, "To His Coy Mistress"

Almost home on the longest day of the year,
I saw two birds on a telephone wire.
Two beaks, two sharp-peaked ruffed,
Two tails that stuck down stiff,
Like two closed fans and matched up neatly.
And against the faintly yellow pre-dusk sky,
The birds and wire were all one color,
A fading black or darkening grey,
Sometimes the smallest thing brings harmony in through the eye.
Or was it that I on that particular day,
Had harmony to bring to what I saw?
        - Deborah Garrison, "Happily Married"

Red-haired girls with eyes that are metallic and full of green, spooky depths ...
Red-haired girls with pale, orange freckles of irregular shape, like alphabet-noodles.
Red-haired girls who wear their hair in high, wild leaps, like red-hot spaghetti...
Red-haired girls of Brunnhildian architecture, magnificent in opera cloaks ...
Little, mousy red-haired girls...
Red-haired girls who seem to be afire. Red-haired girls like smoky autumn days. ...
Red-haired girls with complexions resembling the chests of alligators. ...
Red-haired girls looking self-conscious every time they pass white horses.
Red-haired girls with their hair bobbed, looking like fabulous chrysanthemums.
Red-haired girls lying on the beach, scaring the oysters and scallops away.
Red-haired girls dropping their eyes with fiendish art...
Red-haired girls wondering whether to thank God for it or to curse him.
        - HL Mencken, "Dianthus Caryophyllus", from "The Gist of Mencken"

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