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Examine the ways we legitimise male violence.
Understand that what it means to "be a man" is defined by society.
Start in the playground.
Unplug boys and girls from violent media.

Promote good sports etiquette.
Do not use "like a girl" or "like a woman" as a put-down.
Encourage athletic activities that involve co-operation, fun, physical health and camaraderie.

Teach children how to settle conflicts peacefully.
Recognise that verbal and emotional cruelty are also forms of violence.
Understand that love does not involve control or ownership.
Remember anger is a feeling, violence is an action.
Do not express feelings with fists.

Teach boys and girls effective, respectful ways to express frustration, sadness and caring.
Do not belittle, humiliate or hit children.
Know that fathers who are active in their children’s lives make good dads.
Ask local and elected officials to take action.
Teach your daughters that respect is just the minimum they should expect.
Teach your sons the same.

Teach boys and girls to communicate clearly in relationships, and that "no" really means "no".
Question rape myths.
Recognise that alcohol and drugs feed violence.
Never excuse behaviour by saying "boys will be boys".
Confront homophobia – it pushes men into being tough.
Do not use "gay" as a put-down.
Recognise that individual violence is supported by social systems based on power and control.

Understand war’s effect on women and children and men.
Resist glorifying violence.
Create new and positive stories, myths and heroes.
Praise gentle boys.
Encourage children to trust their instincts; believe victims and children.