motional Awareness.

Even though Loss itself is not an emotion, rather it is a life event it feels right to place it within the emotions category for the fact that loss, could possibly be one of the hardest life event a person may experience along with abuse be it sexual, physical or emotional all of which produces a plethora of emotion in an instant that are life changing on a personal or communal level.

Loss/Grief is devastating. It is possibly the hardest life event a person, family or community will ever have to experience within life. It is universal and experienced by people from all walks of life, across many cultures. It does not have a border nor has it a preference. It is a natural process of mourning that consists of many emotions.

Many people who write about loss say that there are five stages of Grief, I tend to disagree with this because of our six primary emotions. Each emotion is so broad and has many different affects and feelings related to the loss we may have of someone. Each emotion can differ in intensity and frequency in relation to the relationship we may have had with the person. For instance; we may feel sad on the passing of the person but the emotion may be guilt, shame, regret. these emotions are far different than feeling despair, hurt or anguish all of which reside within the emotion of sadness but may have different meaning to different people. The same can be said with the emotion of anger. We may hold bitterness which is very different than torment again of which both emotions reside within anger. So you see for this reason i disagree with the five stages of grief theory. Never the less and no matter how many stages there are loss and grief are still a painful process.

Loss is the instant our loved one passes into the next transition and the moment we discover they are no longer in the physical body. Grief is the processes of emotional turmoil that occur as the aftermath of death. When we loose someone we have loved or placed emotional value on it can be difficult accepting their passing. This can be for many different reasons. It may be a parent loosing a child. A child loosing a parent. The loss of a close family member, a spouse, partner or even a close friend. It can even be a person within the community or a celebrity of who's transition affects us deeply.

Grief has no time limit.There is no time frame that anyone can tell you that by a certain date you will have gotten over your grief. It is a process with no formula, with no right way or wrong way to grieve. It is your grief a grief that is personal to you. It is important to be patient with yourself as you experience grief and although it is your grief it is also important to not navigate this heartache alone. Your experiences of grief needs support for many reasons. When experiencing grief, it is common to: Feel like you are "going crazy".
Have difficulty concentrating.
Feel sad or depressed.
Have emotional highs and lows.
Be angry at the deceased, oneself, others, or higher powers.
Feel like you want to escape or runaway.
Loss of connection to others or society.
Experience guilt.
Feel numb.
Lack energy and motivation. These are all normal feelings.

Your Self healing begins by Acknowledgment of the pain of loss and the allowing of yourself to begin to live life again.
So how do i acknowledge the pain of loss. You allow yourself to mourn openly when you feel like it, not in secret and acknowledge your reason for you sadness. (I'm feeling this way because).

At some stage in your grief you may notice the heart-wrenching pain of loss is beginning to quieten slightly. This is a normal process. It does not mean that you have gotten over your grief or that you are forgetting the person that has passed. It may simply be that you are at a stage of acceptance.

Acknowledge the emotion you carry for the person and allow it to flow to acceptance. Acceptance of change. Acceptance that life still goes on and life has to be lived. Acceptance that you love and will continue to love the memory of the person passed. Acceptance that the person is no longer in the physical world, but you carry them within yourself. Acceptance that others need you for your support, guidance, wisdom and caring. For just the you they love. Acceptance the guilt, anger and sadness or whatever emotional grieving you have has had their moment.

It would be fair to say that the emotional process of loss can sometimes be like a self punishment. In this i mean, we sometimes find it hard to allow ourselves to feel happiness again through the emotion of guilt.
We can feel guilty for laughing or for going to a party. Guilt for that one moment within the day that you have not thought about the person. Guilt is emotion born from thinking. Thinking that i should not be happy at this time. I should be ashamed of myself for having a good time. This would not be good Mind Cultivation.

We may all cope with the experience of Loss/Grief Differently.
Guilt, regret and sadness all aid in stopping the healing process. To aid the healing process we need good mind cultivation.
Here are some things that may help you in your time of grief and aid good mind cultivation.
Talk to family or friends, Seek counseling, Begin to Engage socially, Exercise, Eat, Take time to relax, Join a support group, Be patient with yourself, Let yourself grieve.
You May find that maybe some friends may avoid discussing the subject due to their own discomfort with grief or their fear of making the person feel sad or upset. This can sometimes make us feel alone, but may also make us feel angry.

STOP!.
It is important to connect with our intuitive emotions, emotions that make common sense within our grieving, but not allow ourselves slip into maladaptive thinking. Perpetual sad or negative thought serve us no positive value and could only make us angry or even bitter towards others.

Good Mind cultivation is to except that not everyone is going through what I'm going through and excepting this fact without judgment of others. It is reconnecting with the outside in a gentle, steady manner. It is in acceptance that loss and grief are part of life and it is this process that is the balance of what we all truly are which is nature.

Loss and grief are hard on the body and mind, but if with good mind cultivation the path you find yourself on may in time not be as hard on your feet.
You may find that within time and practice where once life seemed empty now small flowers are beginning to grow. You may even find yourself aiding others in their time of loss and grief.

"Be patient with yourself for this pain to will pass."

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