motional Awareness.

Emotional Insecurity is a very complex state of mind. It is not simply emotions, it is a combination of thinking and emotion's, but also includes attitude and behavior. Emotional insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by a perception of oneself being vulnerable or inferior in some way. It may also be a sense of instability which threatens self-image. Emotionally insecure people may often find it hard to have control over there emotional state and this can lead them to moments of depression, Anxiety, anger and isolation.

As you were growing, you were developing and building a personality from the environment around you. This also included the people you generally come in contact with. Some of these interactions were positive and beneficial. They were the building blocks of your personality, your learning, and development in how you would interact. They also were an aid in the development of your level of self-esteem and self-confidence. But some interactions may have being negative and unhelpful. For some people it is easy to shrug off negative experiences and thats it, but others may find themselves deeply affected by negative interactions which can affect there sense of self-worth and their confidence. It may be at these moments the seed of insecurity and self-doubt are sown.

Your Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall and how much positive regard or self-love you have. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities and can vary from situation to situation. A person may have healthy self-esteem, but have low self-confidence of there abilitys in relation to situations.

The primary emotion of insecurity is fear. The root cause may be any number of negitave situations experienced in the now or during your development at a younger stage but the output of its effects can be an unhealthy negitave perception of self. Emotional Insecurity can tear apart the fabric of a healthy mind. It can distort/distroy relationship with friends, colleagues, families and partners. Its bases is related to our own negative perception of self that can shatter self-esteem and self confidence. It is a master at altering our perception of relationships which inturn may lead us into the relm of mistrust, doubt and sometimes anger.

To change the amount of negitave self-belief we have cultivated in our emotional insecurity requires a change of two different core beliefs about self.
They are self image and trust.
The first is the self-belief that really deflates our self confidence and is the reinforcement of emotional insecurity. This would be the false belief of self image. It is thinking like, I'm not good enough, how i look (I'm Ugly), I'm not smart enough, others have better things than me, i don't please my partner sexually, I'm not very succesfull. All of this negitave thinking on a constant bases serves no true value and only acts to reinforce these negitave beliefs. It also helps the feeling of emotional insecurity grow stronger because so much energy is placed on this type of thinking.

The second core belief to change is our belief in trust or the lack of trust we place in others. Emotionaly Insecure people may often find it hard to place trusts in others due to past negitave experiences. These negitave experiences may have being the birthplace of the emotional insecurity and one reason a person may be deeply affect by them and lack trust could be due to the experience being orchestrate by a person of trust or a person they may have had high reguard for. Breaches of trust and feelings of fear could reinforce patterns of mistrust that may become a core belief to not trust or limit the amount of trust they may have of others. The downside of this belief is that it can get in the way of developing new relationships of friendship and intimacy.

Emotional Insecurity is not an easy state of mind to overcome because it can be an irrational re-offender. Mind cultivation of this state of mind is to acknowledge that emotional insecurity is nothing more than irrational non logical thinking. It's fuel and strenght is the perpetual habit of thinking this way and to continue these pattern's of non-supported negitave beliefs only serve to re-enforce this belief system.

Acknowledge your self-doubt, BUT REMEMBER, it is your own self-doubt that is holding you back. Just because someone may have past a comment on you and may have made you feel inadequate it does not mean what they say is true. It is easier to just except that it is there opinion, perhaps they themselves may be lacking in self-confidence of low self-esteem, either way except there opinion as being there's and acknowledge within yourself that you also have your own positive beliefs and it is these beliefs that drive you to your end goal.

Most often emotionally insecure thinking is irrational and un-supported but its strenght feels so strong and convincing that it could lead to a belief that it is true and real. It is within this un-supported belief that all manner of problems arise. Problems of trust, Filtering your experience by filtering out the positives of an experience and dwell on the negatives and on the disappointments, mind-reading - jumping to a negative interpretation, even though it’s not supported by the facts or logic. Acknowledge when distorted thinking arise. look at it logically. Is there anything factual to support these thoughts.

Look deep within yourself and listen to your inner voice. This is the place where logic, reason and rational thinking reside. Mind cultivation is not trying to get rid of emotional insecurity, it is in getting to know when it arise and using logic to quell its voice. Be patient with yourself and talk to someone you really trust, this is not an easy state of mind to control. Open your mind to new ways of rational thinking.

If you cultivate change in what you believe you can cultivate change in how you feel emotionally.

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