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In
this section you can find answers to some of the questions
that are asked most frequently. Below is a list of
categories. Just click on the category and it will
take you to a series of questions for that category.
We are currently organising and adding more questions.If
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CONTRACEPTION
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PUBERTY
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QUESTIONS
ABOUT SEX
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RELATIONSHIPS
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SAFER
SEX
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SEXUALLY
TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS
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SEXUALITY
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UNPLANNED
PREGNANCY
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Where
do I go to get the Pill?
You can get the Pill from Family planning clinics,
Nurses, and most GPs. If you feel uncomfortable about
visiting your own GP you can choose to see somebody
else. You can find more information on the Pill and
other forms of contraception in the Sexual Health
section of this website.
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What
side effects are there from taking the pill?
When you first start the pill you may experience temporary
side effects. These can include:
" Headaches
" Changes In body weight
" Breast tenderness
" Bleeding between periods
" Mood changes
" Increase in blood pressure
If these symptoms persist you should speak to your
GP about changing the type of pill you use. You can
find more information about the pill and other forms
of contraception in the Sexual Health section of this
website.
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If
I forget to take the pill what do I do?
Being even 12 hours late taking your birth control pill may increase your chance of getting pregnant. If you miss any of the first 21 pills in your pack you need to use an alternate birth control method such as a condom for the next 7 days.
Should you forget to take a birth control pill during the third week of your pack, finish all the oral contraceptives in your pack, skip the non hormonal pills and start a new pack.
Remember if you forget to take your pill at any stage you should use a form of barrier contraception such as a condom as well as taking the pill for at least seven days.
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Is
the Morning After Pill totally effective?
The Morning After Pill or Emergency contraception
must be taken within 72 hours (3 days) after sex.
This form of contraception is more effective if it
is taken as soon as possible. For more information
on the morning after pill and other forms of contraception
see the Sexual Health section of this website.
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Can
you become infertile if you take the 'morning after
pill' more than three times?
The 'Morning After Pill' should only be used in an
emergency. If it is being taken 3 or more times, you
should look at your sexual practices and look for
alternative contraception. You are taking a large
dose of synthetic hormone into your system and just
like any medication, you have to be cautious and protect
your body.
But there is no evidence that the morning pill can
make you infertile. And remember, just because someone
takes the morning after pill, it does not mean that
they were pregnant. The morning after pill is taken
as a precaution, just to make sure that the egg and
sperm do not get together. If the female has released
an egg and the guy has had intercourse with her without
using a condom and no other form of contraception
has been used, then there is a risk of pregnancy.
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If
I pull out before I ejaculate can my girlfriend still
get pregnant?
Before
ejaculation, the penis can release fluid containing
sperm (pre-cum). There can be hundreds of thousands
of sperm on the man's penis before ejaculation. Any
one of these sperm could result in a pregnancy. It
is for this reason that pulling out before ejaculation
isn't recommended as a form of birth control.
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What
changes will my body go through during puberty?
Both males and females
will experience similar changes when they hit puberty.
During puberty you can expect to get taller. You
can also expect hair to develop under arms, on legs,
and in your genital area. Its just the males
that get facial hair and chest hair. The growth of
hair on the back can occur in females as well as males.
Both genders can get acne as a result of the surge
of hormones in your bodies, which is also the cause
of the mood changes that are sometimes experienced. Body
odour is another one of the fabulous things to look forward
to! Therefore daily showers and the 'Lynx Effect'
are worthwhile if you don't want to put people off.
Both males and females will start to have sexual feelings for other people.
In some ways it's a great time of change and development,
in others its a nightmare. Females can find starting
their periods quite difficult to get used to and manage.
For something that happens to all women, there still
seems to be a stigma attached to getting your period,
as if it is somehow dirty or something to be embarrassed
about. This very natural process of becoming a woman
can be a problem. The media have tried to improve
the image of periods, by sticking models on roller
skates with 'Its My Life' blaring in the background.
I don't know about you, but the last thing most females
want to do when they've got periods is to go out on
roller skates!
The
other thing that often isn't discussed is vaginal
discharge, which all women get at different
times. Vaginas are self-cleaning, which is handy,
the vagina has a natural lubricant which keeps it
healthy and clean all on its own. The discharge is
normally clear or slightly milky and may be faintly
yellow when it dries on your knickers. When you are
sexually aroused your vagina gets wetter, to make
love making easier and around the time of ovulation
to help sperm swim up your vagina (if you are sexually
active). However, if you notice that the discharge
smells different from what is normal for you, there
could be an infection which is easily treated, but
you will need to go to your Doctor.
One of the ways of preventing urine infections is
to drink a glass of cranberry juice every day. This
prevents the urine infections that many women can
get.
For
males, when your voice breaks it can be a bit embarrasing.
Your voice can sound a bit odd to your own ears and
can make some guys feel self-conscious. It doesn't
last for long so hang in there!
Wet dreams are another male only ordeal. Waking up
with a stiffy and wet sheets and your Mother calling
you down for cornflakes. The thing is, with all the
increased production of sperm, it has to go somewhere,
and the body responds by ejaculating the excess sperm
while you sleep. This is something you have absolutely
no control over and is perfectly normal. Again, just
know that this will pass.
Uncontrollable erections! You are not alone, it happens
to all men at some stage, when you're on the bus or
at a time when you least expect it. Really, trying
to keep your mind off it is the only option. This
is something else that will pass with time, embarrassing
though it may be.
Just
one more thing to mention. Males do not have self-cleaning
dicks, so it is important for them to gently clean
under their foreskins (no dick brush necessary), unless
you are circumcised - which would mean that you had
your foreskin surgically removed. Foreskin removal is done
for either cultural, social, or medical reasons.
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What
size is normal?
We get asked this question all the time, especially
from males. What a lot of males don't know is that
puberty and body changes can go on until they are in their late teens. Don't worry about penis size, as long as
it works and you don't have any physical problems,
learn to accept what you have. We are all different
shapes and sizes, we're not clones thank goodness!
For females, it's similar with breast size. There
is so much media attention regarding breasts e.g.
celebrities getting breast implants. It can be hard
for females who are developing breasts, especially
when one often develops faster than the other, which
can make females feel really self-conscious. But they
catch up with each other in time, although it is normal
for one to be slightly bigger than the other.
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What
is the legal age for having sex in Ireland?
Most people don't know this, but the legal age for
having sex in Ireland is 17 years for males and females.
This can make it difficult for young people to access
services if they are having sex, especially if they
want this information to remain confidential.
The most important thing is to look for support. If
you feel that you can't confide in your parents, you
can phone our helpline or use the interactive chat
helpline on this site. If you have a good relationship
with your G.P. (family doctor), you may be able to
speak to him/her and they will give you the support
and guidance that you need.
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What
age do people usually have sex?
This question is asked all the time. It shows
the pressure that young adults are under to have sex
by a certain age. Good sex is about communication
between two loving people and that can only happen
when you and your partner are ready. Forget about
age and think about your individual needs and the
needs of your partner. If you do this you are more
likely to have sex because you're ready and not because
you think you should. Some things are worth waiting
for. Honest!
A research study in the UK found that almost 80% of
sexually active young women under the age of 16 years
in the UK regretted having had sex at a young age
and said that it wasn't a very pleasurable experience!
And the same went for sexually active young men, over
60% said the same thing.
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What
is Anal Sex?
Anal sex is when the man puts his penis into the back
passage (anus) of his partner. Anal sex is often highly
risky sex and if you are having anal sex it is very
important to use a good quality condom and lubricant.
Anal sex should not be used as a means of preventing
pregnancy. If you have unprotected anal sex then the
semen in the anus could easily slip out and make its
way to the vagina. Again it is important that you
are comfortable with what you do and you never feel
pressurised into doing things that you are not happy
about.
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What
is the G Spot?
The G spot is a place in the woman's vagina which
is very sensitive to pressure. It can be felt through
the front wall of the vagina. It is located about
5 centimetres from the entrance. Men do not have a
G spot but the prostate gland is sometimes referred
to as the Male G Spot. The prostate gland is located
in the area between the testicles and the anus. The
prostate gland can be stimulated by inserting a lubricated
finger in the anus and gently massaging the prostate
gland.
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What
if you too much to drink and you can't remember what
happened?
This happens more often than you'd think. We live
in a drink culture, where drinking too much alcohol
is a national past time. Females are generally more
sensitive to the effects of alcohol, which means that
they can get drunk quite quickly, but both males and
females can then end up in situations that they wouldn't
normally find themselves in. Your ability to make rational decisions
is hugely affected and it is usually during these
times that people find that they've picked up STIs
or females can find themselves pregnant.
It feels bad enough when people have meaningless sex,
but to not remember it is very upsetting and you should
try to make sure that it doesn't happen to you. If
you are completely out of it on drink or drugs there
is also a possibility that people may take advantage
of you. There is a thin line between consenting to
having sex with someone else, and them taking advantage
of you. If this should happen to you or someone you
know, it is really important to get support.
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What
is the best way to give a blow job?
The secret to this is to ASK. Everyone is different
and likes things done in different ways. You also
have to make sure that you are comfortable with whatever
you are doing.
A blow job involves placing a penis in a person's
mouth and sucking (not blowing). The female equivalent
is called cunnilingus, which is the licking and sucking
of a female's genitals. You do NOT have to give or
recieve genital stimulation with the mouth. Some people
don't like to do this, they feel uncomfortable and
can't relax. If you feel this way DON'T do it. Other
people thoroughly enjoy this act so be true to yourself
and do what you like doing.
You have to remember that if you engage in oral sex
with someone and you don't know their sexual history
(if they've had other sexual partners and not used
condoms) there is a risk of catching an STI. Flavoured condoms are good for oral sex and can protect against STIs.
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When
should I start a sexual relationship?
The most important
thing about starting a sexual relationship is that
you are the one who makes that choice. Entering into
a sexual relationship is a big choice and can have
some serious consequences. It is important to know
that sex is supposed to be fun and rushing into it
for the wrong reasons can lead to a sexual encounter
that you would rather forget.
You don't have to go the full
way to have fun. People, young and old seem to have
this image that sex is all about penetration and forget
that it can be a fun loving act. Kissing, touching,
and caressing are incredibly pleasurable and can actually
take the pressure off people thinking that they have
to have 'full blown sex'.
Abstinence (not having penetrative sex), seems to
have become a dirty word. But when you think about
it, it is the only 100% guaranteed way of preventing
pregnancy and STIs. You can have relationships without
having sexual intercourse. What makes it difficult
to choose abstinence, are things like peer pressure,
the media (TV, movies, and magazines), friends, partners,
and your own feelings.
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What
is Safer Sex?
Safer sex means taking precautions to prevent pregnancy
and getting STIs. The most effective way is abstinence,
but if you are going to have sex and feel that you
are physically and emotionally ready, then get to
know your partner well. This may influence whether
you want to have sex or not, but will also reduce
the risk of regrets in the future.
Always tell your partner if you think you have an
infection, even Thrush (which is not an STI) as it
can be passed between partners.
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What
are boys attitudes to condoms and STIs?
All boys are individuals and it's best not to
generalise about anyone. All we can say, is that the
responses that we have had from boys in the schools
and youth groups we have visited in Cork and Kerry
were generally positive. Boys thought that condoms
were a good thing, as long as the girl was completely
ready emotionally and physically to have sex. We were
told by a number of young people that girls were often
called names like 'Slags' and 'Sluts' by other girls
if they had sex. This is quite shocking when you think
about it.
It was the same with girls carrying condoms. For the
most part they thought that carrying a condom was
a cool, responsible thing to do, but that other girls
would judge them for carrying them.
If a male refuses to wear a condom, what does this
tell you? It could mean that they are unsure how to
put a condom on, because people are rarely taught
or shown how to put a condom on, or it could be that
they are too embarrassed to put a condom on in front
of a female. All of these issues have to be considered.
But at the end of the day, if a condom isn't used
and there is no other form of contraception being
used, you could end up pregnant or with an STI, or
both!
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Is
It ok for me to say no?
It is always Ok to
say no. This applies not just to sex, but to drinking
alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Young people are under
huge pressure on the one hand to be fearless, rebellious
and to try anything, but on the other to be responsible
and mature and above all to be 'good'. It's a tough
time, all you can do is what you think is right, so
listen to yourself.
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What
are Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and how
do you get them?
STIs are infections
that you can get if you have sex with someone, and
don't use a condom. Often people don't know that they
have an STI as you can have one and not know about
it. There can often be no symptoms. The most common
symptoms are an unusual or unpleasant discharge from
your vagina, penis, or anus (back passage), pain or
burning when peeing, unusual pain during sexual intercourse,
bleeding between periods, pain and swelling in the
groin area and/or balls (testicles), irritation, rashes,
sore patches, or lumps around the genitals or anus.
Sexually transmitted infections are on the increase
among young people in Ireland.
It is important to know that many infections can be
treated, so get tested if you have had unprotected
sex (sex without a condom) and make sure.
It is possible to get an STI the first time you have
sex, so just be clear in
your own mind what you want and then stick to your
guns. You can get more information on STIs by clicking
here to go to the
Sexual Health page which contains detailed information
on STIs.
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Would
I know if I had an STI?
The
only sure way to know if you have an STI is to get tested
at your local STI clinic. Many STIs do not have any
symptoms but this does not mean that they aren't causing
you any harm. If you have had unsafe sex it is best
to go for a test. Many STIs can be quite easily treated
but can severely damage your health if they are left
untreated.
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Can
you get an STI from Oral Sex?
Yes. Having unprotected oral sex can transmit Sexually
Transmitted Infections. If you are having oral sex
you should use a dental dam, condom, or another barrier
form of contraception. By having unprotected oral
sex you leave yourself open to infection. HIV, Herpes,
Gonorrheoa, Hepatitis B, Syphillis, and Chylamydia
can all be tranmitted through unprotected oral sex.
You can find more information on Sexually Transmitted
Infections in the Sexual Health section of this website.
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Where
do you go if you think you might have an STI?
If you are underage and are able to confide
in your parents, then that may be the best thing to do. Clinics may demand that the parents of people who are under the legal age of consent involve their parents before they will be treated. Most clinics have excellent teams of Doctors
and Nurses who will look after you, so don't be embarrassed.
It's much better to take the tests if you feel that
you have put yourself at risk by having unprotected
sex (sex without a condom), as most STIs can be cured
with medication. If they are not treated, they can
do you a lot of damage.
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Is
it normal to get a discharge down below? Does it mean
that I have an STI?
No, it does not necessarily
mean that you have an STI. Vaginas are self cleaning, which means that it is normal for all women
to have a discharge. This discharge changes throughout
your monthly cycly, so it is important to know what
is normal for you. If there is any change in the smell
or colour of
your discharge it is important to see your Doctor.
There are infections that you can get which are not
sexually transmitted but which may need treatment.
Males can get discharges too, which would normally
indicate that there is an infection, so it is really
important to get it checked out. If you don't then
you could be worrying about something that just takes
a course of antibiotics to cure.
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What
is Sexuality?
Sexuality is about
the way we express ourselves and it includes the need
to love and be loved. It refers to all aspects of
being sexual. It is a part of your basic identity
and coming to terms with it can sometimes be a major
part of your development.
Your sexual identity is often placed into a box; either
heterosexual (straight), which means that you are
attracted to the opposite sex, homosexual, which means
that you are attracted to members of the same sex
and bisexual, where there is an attraction to both
sexes. Whoever you are attracted to, it's normal.
The problem associated with being anything but 'straight'
is that there is a tendency to put people in a box.
We are all individuals, being true to your sexual
orientation is what's important, if you are to live
a happy and healthy life.
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HOW
DO I TELL MY PARENTS THAT I MIGHT BE PREGNANT, HOW
WILL THEY REACT?
Some parents cope very well and just want to support
their daughter, even if they flip at the beginning.
Others find it harder to accept and want to blame
someone. It's a very difficult time for everyone.
However, there is help and support for anyone who
finds themselves in this position. Our organisation
has trained counsellors to support females through
this time, so if this does happen to you, or a friend,
it is really important to look for help and support.
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What
are my options if I get pregnant?
Click here to
be taken to our crisis pregnancy page where you will
find a list of options.
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